We all want our relationships to work.
We always do the best we are capable of at the time.
Sometimes, we have no idea what’s really going on or how we got here.
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Meet Diane Viola
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I’m here to assist people to connect, understand each other, resolve conflict, and develop strategies and skills to experience more enriching relationships and a deeper appreciation of their ability to give and receive. It is my desire that when you leave this site, you will take with you something which makes a difference in your life and allows you to make a positive contribution to the lives of others.
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Diane
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Positive Relating begins with seeing everything AS IT IS...
and being willing to meet life on its own terms.
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What’s Your Help-Seeking Strategy?
What’s your help-seeking strategy? What do you do when you’re in pain? Do you tough it out, keep it to yourself, ignore it, or pay attention and ask for help?
Receiving Help – A Shared Responsibility
Responding to the challenges we face means asking for help until our needs are met. We must join together to dissolve the isolation & alienation people feel.
Reaching Out With Compassion
Our job is to be the raft that leads to the far shore, to remind each other that we’ll get through this together, and to refuse to let our spirits be broken.
Help-Seeking Patterns of Young People
In May I attended The Mental Health & Wellbeing of Young People Conference and was once again astounded by the statistics around key issues for our young people
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On Reflection...
Through our sessions, we were also able to truly hear what the other was saying, which led to greater understanding between us. We were both able to reconnect with the love we felt for each other, which had been almost completely buried by the dramas, disagreements, trials and challenges of everyday life. We were able to share and explore the truth of what was really going on in our relationship, and to reconnect in a way that we hadn’t really done for years.
I would recommend Diane to anyone with relationship issues, or to anyone needing to gain clarity on any aspect of their life.
Family Constellations is certainly a very powerful process to access the deep recesses of the unseen and to bring them forth with grace and acceptance. Thank you!
I worked with her using Skype. She has some very effective techniques which work really well with Skype. You could be anywhere in the world and get great results.
After working with Diane, family and friends were commenting to me how well I looked and that I seemed different (in a good way). I seemed a lot more relaxed and happy and much more open and it was much easier to connect on a deeper level with me. Diane is great.
Eighteen months ago I felt compelled to see her again as my relationship was in turmoil. My boyfriend and I couldn’t get past certain issues we were dealing with and kept coming to a dead end. Diane was able to be a third party and ask us questions we hadn’t covered and provided us with a different point of view which helped us through our concerns as a couple
We initially saw Di at the initiation of Debbie. This was after a 19 year marriage, 4 children and years of knowing we were disconnected but not knowing what to do or how to handle it.
When we first saw Di together, the overriding feeling we had was that of confidence. Confidence in that whatever the outcome of our counselling we would be treated with respect, non-judgementally and fairly. And that we would be better off for the experience.
Our ‘brief’ to Di was that we needed to resolve the ‘conflict’ between us. This was not violent behaviour, but an emotional one. Over many years there had been a slow disintegration of our relationship. It had affected how we felt and acted towards each other. There had already been an unspoken separation and this had affected the family dynamic and our children’s happiness.
Over a relatively short period of time, with Di’s guidance, counselling and coaching, we were able to ‘resolve the conflict’ through a better understanding of each other’s relationship needs. The final outcome was a formal separation. Some might say that this was a failure; on the contrary. Our decision was the most loving choice that we could make for ourselves and each other.
It is very unlikely that we would have achieved this perfect result on our own. We will always be indebted to Di for her love, professionalism, skill and care towards us both.
PS I would like to add that with Di’s assistance I was able to find clarity and strength to move on with dignity and to understand that our choice to separate was the most loving one for myself. I now believe, 6 months on, that we have moved on successfully. Stephen and I have a healthy, loving friendship and respect for each other. We continue to parent our four children as a family. The most rewarding of all is that myself, Stephen and our children are happy. Debbie
PPS From a male’s perspective, I was reluctant to seek advice because ‘I couldn’t see what the problem was’. I have learned so much about myself and it has been a personally satisfying experience. Di’s guidance was a beacon for me when I was most vulnerable and self-doubting. Stephen